Women in leadership Australia and beyond

Over the past few days, I’ve been aware of a heaviness I couldn’t quite name. Nothing dramatic had happened. Life was unfolding as it usually does. And yet there was a quiet emotional density sitting just beneath the surface — not overwhelming, but persistent, as though something inside me was waiting to be acknowledged. It wasn’t until this morning that the clarity arrived. As I reflected on why certain novels affect me so deeply — why I sometimes need to close the book and let tears gather — I recognised something essential about myself: it is not the dramatic scenes or the grand tragedies that undo me. It is the small moments. The quiet cruelties. The dismissive words. The everyday meanness that characters inflict on one another without even noticing. A sharp comment. A look intended to diminish. A casual hurt passed off as nothing. Those are the moments that pierce me. Those are the ones that bring the tears. And today I finally understood why. I know the weight of small wounds . I have lived them. My first marriage was marked by passive-aggressive behaviour — not explosive, not overt, but steady, quiet harm. Tiny cuts delivered without ownership. Each one too minor to point to, but collectively erosive. Over time, I learned what emotional abrasion feels like: the slow wearing-down, the internal calculation of “Is this worth mentioning?” and the ongoing tolerance of harm that never quite qualifies as harm. Death by a thousand cuts. That is how I used to describe it. So when I encounter subtle hurt in fiction, it resonates instantly. It’s not about reliving the past. It’s about my body recognising the energetic shape of something familiar. Not trauma returning, but truth remembered. And interestingly, once I named it — once I said internally, Ah, this is the weight of small wounds — the heaviness lifted. Completely. The clarity itself was release. This is what healing looks like now. I don’t brace against the feeling. I don’t collapse beneath it. I don’t override it with logic or judgement. Instead, I let the sensation move through, noticing it with tenderness and then allowing it to go. There is no torment in this recognition. There is only testimony. The tears that rise when I read those scenes are no longer the tears of a woman burdened by her past. They are the tears of a woman who survived, who understands herself, and who feels deeply without losing herself. And there is a broader truth here for women in leadership. Small wounds happen everywhere — in workplaces, meetings, families, communities. They are often dismissed because they are subtle. But their impact on confidence, belonging, and self-trust is profound. Naming them is part of reclaiming power. Feeling them is part of reclaiming humanity. Speaking about them — publicly, on platforms not always designed for feminine wisdom — is part of reshaping leadership itself. I share this here because women need to see their emotional intelligence reflected and validated. Because leadership that makes room for nuance, empathy, and embodiment is stronger, not weaker. And because the weight of small wounds lifts the moment we recognise it for what it is.  If this resonates with you, I invite you to share your reflections below or join my mailing list for weekly updates.

The Gentle Art of Becoming Recently, I found myself in Sydney, wandering along Circular Quay. A huge cruise ship was docked, its towering presence casting a long shadow across the wharf, and tourists were doing what tourists do — drifting in clusters, taking photos, following tour guides with small flags or signs, absorbing everything with a kind of wide-eyed openness. I had no particular agenda that morning. I was simply walking, letting my feet find their own pace. And that was when I heard her. Off to one side, a young woman sat with an electric violin tucked under her chin, her bow moving with effortlessly. What poured out wasn’t classical or recognisable; it was the kind of music that seems to pulse from somewhere deep within the earth. My feet began tapping, my hips swayed a little. I stopped. I listened. And something inside me — something that lives closer to instinct than intention — whispered: Dance. I walked over, placed some money in her case, and said, with a smile that felt almost too wide for my face, “Your music makes me want to dance.” She beamed. “Oh, you can dance!” she said, sweeping her arm out toward the open space around us. It was such a simple statement, so matter-of-fact. Of course I could dance. Of course the space was mine. Of course the invitation was real. And yet — I didn’t move. Not because I didn’t want to. But because of something quieter, deeper, more familiar. A thread of conditioning woven through decades of being a woman in a culture that teaches its girls early and relentlessly: Don’t draw attention to yourself. Don’t make a spectacle of your body. Don’t be too much. Don’t take up space. And so, I didn’t dance with my feet. But I danced in my heart. I softened into her music. I let it move inside me. Tears pricked unexpectedly, and I smiled — widely, openly, unapologetically — because even though my body stayed anchored to the ground, something in me was dancing, freely and without restraint. And perhaps even more importantly: I did not berate myself for not dancing. I didn’t call myself cowardly. I didn’t scold myself for “missed opportunities.” I didn’t shame the hesitation. I didn’t demand instant transformation. There was a time in my life — a long time — when I would have. But on this morning, I simply allowed myself to be exactly where I was. I stayed. I listened. I softened. I let the music reach the places in me that were ready to be reached — no more, no less. And the kindness I offered myself in that moment felt like its own kind of dance. Soft. Unhurried. Born of deep knowing. Because the truth is this: You cannot undo decades of conditioning in a single moment of courage. Nor should you force yourself to. The work of becoming — true becoming — doesn’t happen through pressure or force or emotional gymnastics. It happens slowly, gradually, almost imperceptibly, until one day the light is simply there and you realise you are standing in it. The Gentle Work of Becoming We have been sold, in so many ways, the myth of the dramatic transformation: the big leap, the grand gesture, the overnight change. And yet, if you pay attention to your actual lived experience, you’ll notice that your deepest shifts never happen that way. They begin quietly. Privately. Softly. Long before there is any external sign, something inside you reorients itself. A small courage awakens. A long-buried longing surfaces. A truth you’ve been avoiding finally speaks clearly. What I’ve learned — and what Mycelatrix™ is built upon — is that real transformation does not rush. It unfolds. Just like mycelium beneath the forest floor, change spreads invisibly first. Networks form. New life stirs. Strength gathers quietly. And only later — sometimes much later — does something break the surface where others can see it. This way of being isn’t passive. It isn’t avoidance. It is organic. It is alive. It is sustainable. In the Mycelatrix™ world, everything grows from the inside out: • Roots before fruit. • Resonance before visibility. • Inner movement before outer action. This honours the truth that change has its own timing — just like my urge to dance did. The moment wasn’t wrong. My response wasn’t wrong. The internal dance was real, even if my feet remained still. When we show ourselves kindness at these small, quiet thresholds, something profound happens. The old conditioning — the “don’t be seen,” the “don’t be too much,” the “don’t step out of line” — begins to loosen. Not shattered or destroyed (that, too, is a myth), but softened. Made porous. Rewritten from within. And one day, without forcing anything, you may find yourself rising from the bench, stepping out into the open space, and dancing — not because you pushed yourself to “be brave,” but because something in you simply said: Now. That is the Mycelatrix™ way. That is becoming without breaking yourself open. An Invitation to You So let me ask you gently: Where in your life are you longing to “dance,” but still learning to soften the conditioning that holds you still? And more importantly: What would it feel like to offer yourself the same kindness — the same spacious, Mycelatrix™ gentleness — as you take your next small step? You don’t need to leap. You don’t need to perform bravery. You don’t need to “fix” decades of inherited patterns in one moment. Let it unfold. Let your heart move first. Your feet will follow when they’re ready. I’d love to hear from you. If this reflection resonated with you — if you’ve had your own “almost-dancing” moments, or if you’re learning to be gentler with yourself as you grow — I invite you to share your thoughts in the comments below. And if you’d like more reflections like this, alongside my ongoing work with Mycelatrix™, leadership, archetypes, and the quiet revolutions of self-awareness, you’re warmly welcome to subscribe to my newsletter for weekly insights.  Your voice, your journey, your unfolding — they matter here.

We often hear the advice: take a helicopter view. Rise above the detail. Step back. Be fiercely objective. It’s familiar guidance in research, leadership, and personal development — the belief that clarity comes from distancing ourselves from the tangle of specifics. But the more deeply I reflect on this idea, the more apparent it becomes that pure objectivity — the clean, unfiltered vantage point we imagine — doesn’t really exist. Not because we aren’t trying hard enough. But because we are human. Every one of us carries a unique constellation of experiences, beliefs, assumptions, and unconscious biases. They shape how we interpret the world long before we have a chance to “zoom out.” They determine what we notice, what we ignore, and the stories we instinctively attach to situations. To insist we can fully remove ourselves from this inner landscape risks hiding its influence rather than illuminating it. Objectivity, in its truest and most ethical form, doesn’t require us to deny bias. It asks us to recognise it . It asks us to name the lenses through which we see. To be transparent about our own positioning. To acknowledge the forces — personal, cultural, relational — that shape our perceptions. This isn’t a flaw in our perspective. It’s a strength. When we become aware of our biases, they lose their power to operate unnoticed. When we understand how we are shaped, we gain the capacity to step back with greater clarity, not less. Awareness becomes the anchor that allows us to hold critical distance without pretending we stand outside our own humanity. This is the quiet revolution at the centre of the work I do: awareness as a form of power. Not the loud kind. Not the heroic kind. But the grounded, steady kind that transforms how we lead, relate, and make sense of complexity. True clarity doesn’t come from standing above the landscape. It comes from knowing the contours of our own inner terrain. It’s slow work. Deep work. Transformative work. And it’s available to all of us.  Reflection for you: Where might acknowledging your own assumptions or biases actually increase your clarity, rather than compromise it? If this speaks to you… I’d love you to join the conversation. Share your thoughts in the comments — or if you’d like more reflections like this, you’re warmly invited to join my mailing list for weekly updates and insights. Your awareness is a power. Let’s explore it together.

In Western culture, ageing is treated as something to resist. When value is tied to productivity, fertility, and physical strength, the years between 20 and 40 become our cultural ideal — the so-called “prime of life.” We see it everywhere: anti-ageing creams, fitness programs that promise to “get your body back,” and the admiration for those who “don’t look their age.” Ageing is framed as a problem to be fixed, not a process to be honoured. Both men and women feel this pressure, but it affects women more deeply. Men remain fertile for life; women do not. A greying man is seen as wise or powerful. A greying woman is often described as “past her best.” But what if that entire narrative is wrong? I’ve chosen to embrace ageing — intentionally, decade by decade. It hasn’t always been easy, but it has been freeing. As I move through my sixties and prepare to turn seventy, I’ve discovered a different kind of power: one rooted in creativity, wisdom, and perspective. My energy isn’t what it was at thirty — but my insight, compassion, and clarity are far richer. To embrace ageing is an act of rebellion in a culture that glorifies youth. It’s to say: I am still here. I am still becoming. Old is not a dirty word. It’s a declaration. It’s the visible truth of a life fully lived — and that’s something worth celebrating. Reflection: What would it mean for you to embrace ageing — not as loss, but as liberation? Love to hear your thoughts - please leave a comment below. If you'd like to get more thoughts and insights like this, subscribe to my newsletter below.

Sometimes the clouds gather more than once before we understand what they’re trying to show us. A few days ago, I drew The Clouds card from my oracle deck — twice. The message that came with it was simple but powerful: “If you continue chasing after unrealistic ideas and keep floating in the clouds, success will continue to elude you. Success needs vision and down-to-earth execution.” That spoke to where I am right now — holding a clear vision for my speaking and Mycelatrix work, while staying grounded in the daily, practical actions that bring that vision to life. Then a real-life storm appeared. I discovered two unexplained transactions on my business account. For a brief moment, the clouds thickened. I contacted the bank, reported the transactions, and had my card cancelled. It all unfolded calmly — no panic, no drama. Later, I learned the payments were legitimate annual renewals for an online service I use. What could have been a stressful episode instead became something else entirely — a moment of clarity and confirmation. I realised that I had acted from calm self-trust. I didn’t spiral into fear or self-blame. I simply did what needed to be done. And that’s when I saw it: the gift of the storm. Storms — whether financial, emotional, or relational — often come uninvited. Some shake our foundations; others pass quickly. Yet every storm carries a gift: it shows us who we are when the winds rise. It reminds us that we are capable, resourceful, and steady. For me, this small storm cleared the air. I now have a new business card, a fresh start, and a renewed sense of confidence as the year draws to a close. The Clouds card, drawn twice, has revealed its deeper message: I can stand firm. I can trust myself. The gift of the storm isn’t found in the storm itself — it’s in what’s revealed when it passes. The clearer sky. The steadier ground. The deeper knowing of who we truly are. Reflection: Have you ever faced a storm — big or small — that revealed a hidden strength in you? I’d love to hear your story. Share it in the comments below, or if this reflection resonates with you, subscribe to my newsletter for more stories about the power we discover in everyday life. 

A recent comment gave me pause to reflect: that Māori energy feels 'heavy' at the moment. I wonder if what is named as heaviness is, in fact, history speaking. Māori energy isn’t heavy by nature — it’s burdened by centuries of harm still unhealed. It carries the long memory of colonisation, of a treaty honoured in law but rarely in spirit. It’s the collective weight of survival: the effort of continually asserting identity and sovereignty in a nation that still centres whiteness as the default. When governments begin rolling back progress, when language and land rights are questioned, when policies lean nostalgic for “simpler times” — times when white men ruled without question — that weight deepens. The haka, that powerful embodiment of pride, becomes both celebration and protest. It speaks of resilience and resistance, of the pain of being unseen and the power of refusing to disappear. From across the waters, I see a similar story playing out here in Australia. First Nations peoples also carry a heaviness, one that many non-Indigenous Australians are quick to misread. After the Voice referendum’s defeat, that heaviness grew thicker, not because hope had died, but because yet again the message was clear: You may live here, but your voice will not shape this nation’s future. It’s easy to label that energy as heavy. Harder to ask why. What my friend feels is not Māori anger alone — it’s the spiritual and emotional residue of ongoing injustice. It’s the ache of being unheard. And perhaps, if we are honest, it’s also the discomfort of privilege sensing its own reflection. So maybe the better question isn’t why are they so heavy? but what weight have I not been willing to feel? Because when one group shoulders the pain of a nation, the imbalance touches everyone. The land itself grows weary under that distortion. The heaviness isn’t theirs alone — it’s shared, whether we acknowledge it or not. Perhaps the invitation, then, is to stay present to the heaviness rather than recoil from it. To let empathy, not defensiveness, guide our response. To understand that grief, resistance, and pride can coexist — and that each carries truth. When the air feels heavy, it may not be a warning. It may be a call — to listen, to learn, to finally take our part in lifting the weight. What heaviness are you being asked to feel, rather than fear? Love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. If you’d like to learn more, or continue this conversation, subscribe to me weekly email newsletter.

A New Model of Quiet Leadership

I have regularly prepared for masterclasses and workshops using carefully-planned scripts. Every word planned, every transition carefully marked. It gave me a sense of safety — if I knew the script, I knew I could deliver. But something shifted. I realised that when I spoke, what resonated most deeply wasn’t the line I had crafted perfectly, but the moment I set the script aside and spoke from myself — my body, my experience, my knowing. That is when people leaned in. That is when the connection sparked. And so I find myself moving into a new way of leading, not through lack of preparation, but through trust in what I already carry. Now, when I run a full-day masterclass it can be without a script. Not because I haven’t prepared, but because I have. The preparation isn’t on the page anymore — it’s in me. This is what I call embodied knowledge . When you’ve lived something, studied it, wrestled with it, tested it, it doesn’t just sit in your head as theory. It becomes part of you. The stories are yours. The insights are yours. The wisdom is yours. And when you stand up to teach, lead, or share, you don’t need to clutch a script because you are the script. There’s a freedom in this. A spaciousness. Instead of straining to remember the next line or worrying about whether I’ve covered every dot point, I can pay attention to the people in front of me. I can notice their questions, their silences, their sparks of recognition. I can respond in the moment, not because I’m improvising, but because I already carry the substance within me. It doesn’t mean I won’t prepare. I will always prepare. But preparation is different now. It’s not about writing every word. It’s about grounding myself in the essence of what I want to share and trusting that the right words will come when I open my mouth. “I am the script” is more than a mantra for teaching — it’s a way of living. How often do we rely on external scripts in our lives? Scripts about what success should look like. Scripts about how women should lead. Scripts about ageing, about family, about worth. These scripts can keep us small, contained, safe — but they can also keep us from trusting what is already in us. When we say, “I am the script,” we take back authority. We say: I carry enough. I don’t need to mimic someone else’s words or patterns. My life is the material. My wisdom is the content. My voice is the script.  And in that moment, we lead not from performance, but from presence.

A Life Reclaimed