Studies show an equality in levels of confidence between men and women, but the reality seems to be quite different.

I've often heard a refrain from women: "I want to be more confident." This sentiment - at odds with statistical studies - prompts a deeper inquiry into how confidence is manifested. Are men and women truly on equal footing in this domain, or are there underlying factors at play?

It's not a matter of sheer confidence levels but rather how that confidence is expressed. Men, historically occupying leadership roles, have sculpted a paradigm where assertiveness, directness, and even emotional displays are celebrated. The image of a hand pounding the table or a victorious arm raised high symbolizes confidence in its quintessential form.

However, women navigating these spaces encounter a double bind. When they emulate traditional expressions of confidence—assertive, direct, or emotionally charged—they risk being labelled as "bossy" or "aggressive." The very qualities applauded in men become stumbling blocks for women, painting their confidence in a harsher light.

Conversely, women often possess nuanced leadership styles characterized by vulnerability and empathy. Their approach may be quieter, their influence more subtle. Yet, this quieter confidence is frequently overshadowed by societal expectations favouring louder, more assertive demonstrations.

This begs the question: Why must confidence conform to a singular mold? Great leaders throughout history—both male and female—have showcased diverse styles. From the resolute leadership of Angela Merkel to the empathetic governance of Jacinda Ardern, there's no one-size-fits-all approach to leadership.

True confidence transcends societal norms. It's rooted in self-awareness, authenticity, and a deep trust in one's abilities. Florence Nightingale didn't need to roar from the mountaintops to lead; her quiet determination spoke volumes.

So, women: trust in your own voice. Embrace your confidence, whether it's a bold proclamation or a soft whisper. Confidence is not about conforming to expectations but about embracing our individuality. Whether you lead from the frontlines or influence from behind, your style is valid, your voice essential.

Whether your confidence roars or whispers, know this—you are enough, just as you are. Trust in your voice, trust in your vision, and lead with the unwavering certainty that comes from embracing your authentic self.